Your “Priority” is Low
In everyone’s mind, relationships have a “ranking.”
At the top are your parents and family;
Below them might be your significant other and friends.
The more important someone is to you, the higher their priority in your heart.
In intimate relationships, one sign of their lack of love for you is treating you like a stranger.
You can clearly feel it:
They treat others better than you;
They reply immediately to others but not to you;
While they accept invitations from others, they always make excuses to avoid yours.
Because they don’t care about you, you are always forgotten.
You Are Always the Initiator
In a relationship, why is one person always the initiator?
First: they care more about the other person and are willing to invest more emotions and time.
Second: they have ulterior motives and want to gain something from the other person.
Third: they have low self-worth and always see themselves as inferior.
Are you the one who always takes the initiative in your relationship?
The more you care, the more you want to take the lead.
If you find yourself unable to let go of a relationship, it may not be because you love them so much but because you have invested too much in them.
It’s like when you didn’t plan to have a pet, but a friend gave you one;
After a few months of caring for it, you surprisingly start to love the pet more.
This is the “sunk cost trap.”
In any relationship, if you never take the initiative, it means they don’t care about you.
Magnifying Your Flaws and Starting to Blame You
There are people with a critical personality who always nitpick.
No matter what you do, they can find faults;
They don’t see your efforts or sacrifices, only your “flaws.”
They magnify your insignificant flaws and use them as reasons to attack you.
When the person you love suddenly becomes critical, it indicates they are increasingly dissatisfied with you.
If you haven’t done anything wrong, and they become more irritable and critical compared to when you first met, it means they are preparing to leave you.
Some people fall out of love but won’t say it directly. Instead, they use extreme behaviors to force you to break up.
These are the most cunning individuals.
Refusing to Acknowledge Your Relationship
When you are out together and they let go of your hand when meeting someone they know;
When introducing you to others, they say, “This is my friend.”
If you’ve been together for a long time but they never bring up marriage;
If you suggest meeting their parents, they keep delaying;
If you propose visiting their place, they say “maybe later.”
In your social circle, apart from a few, no one knows about your relationship.
Having a crush is a secret, but love is not;
If someone truly loves you, they would want to shout about your relationship to everyone.
If they always keep you “hidden,” what does it mean?
It means they don’t really love you.
They are always ready to leave you.
They are with you with a “grass is always greener” mindset.