If someone truly loves you, you can’t escape or run away unless they intentionally let you go. What more do you need to understand?
Loving someone means wanting to be with them all the time. A man who is hot and cold is either skilled at playing mind games or just seeking to alleviate boredom without love.
We all hope for wholehearted commitment in love or a clean break if there’s no love.
However, in reality, some people neither commit nor let go.
You can feel the internal struggle and pain when you’re with him, but the occasional goodness from him makes you doubt, “Does he really love me?”
Actually, a man who doesn’t love you yet keeps in touch probably thinks like this.
Accustomed to Your Warmth and Effort
In both career and life, people have comfort zones they’re used to, even if not perfect. The sense of security is enough to prevent breaking away.
Perhaps “habit becomes nature” is the epitome of this lifestyle.
Compared to leaving you, the fear of the unknown is harder for him to accept.
Best friends for over a decade, they even moved to the same city for college. Everyone thought they were meant for each other.
Only the best friend knew that privately, the man wasn’t as affectionate. He wouldn’t give up basketball, games, or hanging out with friends for her.
But he would occasionally reach out with sudden affection.
So, during their four years in college, they entangled without a clear status.
During postgraduate studies, the best friend heard the man had a new girlfriend. From that day, he stopped contacting her.
Sometimes, we mistake the other person’s reluctance to let go for love.
In reality, he’s just used to the stability and tranquility of having you around. He’s not ready to step out of his comfort zone for a new relationship.
But when he encounters “true love” and feels the signals of reciprocity, he gains the confidence to leave you behind for the next comfort zone.
Leaving You with Vague Hope as a Backup Plan
There’s a saying: “Don’t miss the last bus home and someone who deeply loves you.”
Yet, some people trample on genuine feelings without mercy.
In the adult world, weighing pros and cons is common, tarnishing pure love.
Men don’t like drizzle, but to avoid embarrassment of being alone, they keep someone hanging without commitment.
Their relationship is like flying a kite. When the distance grows, the man pulls back, surprising her occasionally.
When she gets lost in love’s fantasies, he pulls back, making her understand her place.
In this way, she constantly consumes herself in the love-hate cycle.
Men who keep backups calculate meticulously but won’t invest fully. They use this vague ambiguity to keep women complacent.
However warm he may seem, you won’t feel enough love and care because he hasn’t committed; it’s all just a show.
You may think you’re his one and only, but you’re just one of many.
A man who truly loves you will be more anxious about love than you, fearing he might hurt or upset you.
A man who doesn’t love you, no matter how sweet his words or actions, can’t make you feel loved because he’s only looking out for his interests.
Facing love, I agree with this:
I will treat you sincerely but not cling to you, living in fate, not relationships.
Life has different paths and boats. If there’s love in the passing years, follow your heart. If feelings fade, keep your heart warm.