Life is like a mix of salt and sugar—it can be sweet or salty depending on how you flavor it.
When people enter marriage, they all carry dreams of a beautiful life and a happy future.
Some work hard to nurture their relationship, facing life’s challenges together and turning it into sweetness;
Others take it easy, letting their partner carry the burden, leading to emotional bankruptcy even in a good relationship.
When cracks start appearing in the marriage, escaping from the fortress of matrimony becomes a common choice.
Some thrive after divorce, starting anew with a refreshed spirit;
Others are filled with regret, realizing it’s too late to turn back.
So, who regrets the most after divorce?
Those who took it easy inside the marriage deeply regret it.
Psychologist Fromm once said, “Responsibility is not an external obligation but a response to events we care about.”
For someone with a strong sense of responsibility, the trivialities of family life are a sweet burden.
However, for someone lacking responsibility, it becomes a heavy weight to bear.
One such example is Lisa’s ex-husband, a man devoid of responsibility.
He lived a carefree life in marriage, shifting all family responsibilities onto Lisa.
After work, he either played games on the couch or hid in the bathroom on his phone.
All household chores fell on Lisa’s shoulders.
Lisa tried to make him share the load, like doing laundry, but he refused, claiming ignorance of the washing machine.
Not only did he neglect chores, but he was also lazy, littering and leaving dirty socks everywhere.
When Lisa came home late and dinner wasn’t prepared, he ordered takeout, leaving a mess for Lisa to clean up.
On weekends, he was engrossed in fishing, neglecting their children and their schoolwork.
Lisa hoped he would help with the burdens of life, but he shamelessly replied, “I got married for leisure, why should I help you?”
In the end, Lisa chose to divorce.
After the divorce, Lisa rebuilt her life with pursuit and effort, finding fulfillment and happiness.
Meanwhile, her ex-husband’s life fell apart.
Stains on his shirt collar were noticed by colleagues due to neglect; frequent takeout orders led to weight gain.
It was only then that Lisa’s ex-husband began to regret his actions.
Desperate for a new “mom-like” partner, most women avoided him, seeing through his facade.
“Couples are partners, workers, and creators of new life.”
If one always shirks responsibilities, leaving everything to the other, the boat of marriage will inevitably capsize.
Every man and woman, once they start a family, should work hard to maintain it, prioritizing their home.
Accountability and responsiveness, mutual love, and support are essential.
The Most Regretful are Those Who Face Consequences After Cheating
“Marriage is a strict discipline.”
Undoubtedly, loyalty is the minimum requirement for a marriage.
With loyalty as the foundation, trust, respect, and care can follow.
In a TV drama, Ren cheated with the neighbor, causing his marriage to crumble.
He tried to maintain appearances at home while indulging in the thrill of the affair.
However, as the third party closed in, his infidelity was exposed by his wife, leading to the end of their marriage.
After the divorce, Ren woke up to reality.
He discovered that the once lovely, sexy, and understanding woman he cheated with was controlling and manipulative, bombarding him with calls and threats of self-harm when he was home.
His affair tarnished his reputation, with colleagues gossiping and his boss firing him.
Without a job, Ren’s income plummeted, but his unfaithful partner continued to spend recklessly.
Comparing his ex-wife’s kindness and care to his current situation, Ren deeply regretted his actions.
In his eyes, the once sexy woman was revealed to be a manipulative threat, causing him to lose his family and live a miserable life.
Balzac once said, “For every evil deed, no matter how fast one runs, consequences will catch up.”
Cheaters, with weak moral values, often face repercussions and self-inflicted consequences.
Lacking the ability to appreciate a good family, they ruin their own happiness.
Staying loyal is not only about being faithful to your partner but also about upholding personal dignity and the sanctity of marriage.
It’s about setting a righteous example for children and not bringing shame upon parents and offspring.
Life has no rewind button, and those trapped by their infidelity will carry the stain forever, living with regret.
The Most Regretful are Those Who Hastily Divorce
Nietzsche said in “Dawn,” “When deciding on an action, one should assess its appropriateness from a more rational perspective.”
Blindly following the trend of divorce may seem cool but is actually reckless and irresponsible towards one’s life.
Take for instance, Lily, a company anchorwoman, who believed her husband, a clinic doctor, was unworthy of her due to his supposedly dim future.
Despite earning a decent income, Lily found her marriage dull and lacking in love.
Unbeknownst to her, her husband, though earning less, was very family-oriented, cherishing his wife and child.
He would leave work early to pick up their child, spend time cooking for the family, and patiently fix things around the house.
However, Lily failed to appreciate him, hastily divorcing him to be with a male internet celebrity.
To her surprise, the internet celebrity, despite a higher income, was temperamental and unfaithful, surrounded by female companions.
Unable to find a man with her ex-husband’s good character, Lily continued her search for a “high-quality” partner in vain.
In reality, there is no perfect marriage or partner.
“A difficult marriage involves accounts, certificates, 365,000 arguments, and patience.”
When high expectations are unmet, or flaws are amplified leading to hasty divorce, marrying someone new might not bring the desired happiness.
If there are no fundamental mistakes in the marriage, it’s worth communicating rationally, seeking consensus, being less emotional, and more understanding.
Ultimately, love and marriage are distinct.
Love is like a dazzling firework, vibrant and romantic, while marriage is like a sacred temple, solemn and dignified.
Respecting and guarding marriage, being humble and not proud, and diligently working on it will bring color to an ordinary life.
Leo Tolstoy once said, “The joy one gains from their partner in marriage is just the beginning, not the entirety. The true meaning of marriage lies in family life.”
Marriage requires unwavering courage and wisdom to nurture.
Translating the past romance and passion into the mundane aspects of life.
Sharing responsibilities, not leaving your partner alone;
Staying loyal, building a fortress of security for your partner;
Treating marriage with care, not letting go of each other’s hand too easily.
In everyone’s heart lies an emotional account. Each time our partner brings us joy and happiness, it’s like depositing precious wealth into this account.
In marriage, we should continue to deposit into our partner’s emotional account.
Only then can we accumulate deep trust and understanding, making the emotional bond between spouses stronger and the relationship more stable and enduring.