Being too compliant and agreeable will only make others look down on you. Today, let’s talk about a guy who initially wanted a casual relationship but ended up falling in love and being happy together with a girl.
Let’s focus on how the girl guided the guy to take her seriously and tame his wandering heart:
Lisa, a luxury store saleswoman, met a handsome and wealthy law firm partner, but he didn’t seem serious.
One day, she told me the guy messaged her to come over for dinner at his place. She was interested but hesitant. Going might lead to a casual relationship, while refusing might mean losing a good guy.
The guy had a purpose:
On one hand, to test if he could easily win her over without investing time, effort, or romance.
On the other hand, to gauge the girl’s boundaries, unsure of what she wanted.
So how did she respond?
It was a good opportunity to play along with him using a male mindset.
By playing along, she could set her boundaries and make him take her seriously while advancing the relationship.
She could say, “What? Afraid I’ll devour you?”
He might think or even say, “I’d love for you to devour me.”
If he said that, she could test if he wanted to dance.
What should she do?
She should use the “push” tactic from the conversation techniques and push him away by saying, “So you’re usually this casual?”
After Lisa sent this, the guy replied, “No, it’s because I like you that I’m like this, just want to get to know you more.”
We could see the guy was nervous, starting to explain. How could she continue to set the pace and make him follow her lead?
The girl said, “Well, you better think carefully. Liking me will require effort upfront.”
By saying this, she immediately took control of the situation.
After the girl’s response, the guy asked, “Effort?”
At this point, she could further establish her boundaries. The girl replied, “Yes, it takes time, effort, and patience.”
This showed the guy that liking her required action and not rushing into a relationship.
Later, the guy said, “It’s only right to invest in a girlfriend. I’ve booked a restaurant; let’s go out for dinner tonight.”
The girl was delighted to read this and wondered if it was a confession.
I advised her not to rush. It wasn’t the right time yet. She needed to stay steady.
The girl replied, “Who agreed to be your girlfriend? The trial period isn’t over yet. You better behave.”
Then I told her to touch up her makeup and get ready for the date.
After gradually getting to know each other, stabilizing the relationship in about a month, she’s now off the market, with a handsome and high-quality boyfriend, living happily every day.