There’s a question: “Why do men cheat?”
One answer is shocking: “Every man will cheat; I’m just following my nature.”
Some people always use the excuse, “I’m just like every other man who cheats,” to downplay their infidelity and hurt their wives and families.
Why is infidelity a common topic in intimate relationships?
The reason is that despite being stigmatized, infidelity is still prevalent in many marriages.
Research shows:In their lifetime, over half of men have cheated at least once in an intimate relationship; 41% of married couples admit to physical or emotional infidelity.
What’s more shocking is that if they knew they wouldn’t get caught, 74% of men said they would cheat.
And even if the infidelity is discovered, 31% of marriages still continue.
Why Do So Many Men Cheat?
“I’m like left hand holding right hand with my wife, but with her, every day is a new experience.”
“My wife only cares about the kids; we have no common language, and she doesn’t understand my work pressure.”
“My wife is like a shrew, only controlling me, cooking bad food, and having no sense of humor, while she is different.”
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We often hear these familiar excuses from cheating men, as if every wife is unbearable.
But in reality?
Even if you’re beautiful, elegant, and caring, he’ll still feel you can’t empathize with him, and you can’t provide spiritual comfort.
Even if you take care of his daily life, ask about his well-being, and show concern, he’ll still complain that life is dull and lacks excitement.
Even if you earn a good income and provide material support, he’ll still criticize you for not being family-oriented.
As Goethe said in “Faust,” “What’s already in hand is often taken for granted, and people crave something new.”
The essence of infidelity is greed.
Having watermelon, they still want sesame seeds; having the moon, they want sixpence.
The contract of marriage is the core of this relationship.
In this long contract, both spouses must understand and respect each other, without crossing the bottom line.
This is why infidelity can cause severe damage to a marriage and is the root of the wife’s heartache.
Can He Truly Return After Cheating?
“I was drunk and didn’t know what I did.”
“I was just playing with her; I really love you!”
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Listen to these familiar excuses.
After cheating, a man will face public criticism, his children’s accusations, and his wife’s anger.
If his wife files for divorce, he may lose out in property division and child custody.
Because of human nature, many men will choose to return to their families.
They’ll say:
“I promise to cut ties with her!”
“I’ll love you better from now on!”
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But, as the saying goes, “It’s easy to go from simplicity to luxury, but hard to go from luxury to simplicity.”
Can a man who has tasted the thrill and novelty of infidelity really make a comeback?
Just like in the TV series “The Legend of Miyue,” the cheating man, Yuan Miao, had an affair with his mistress, Sha Xiaojiu.
They agreed to part ways, but fate brought them together again, and they maintained a long-term connection.
But, in the end, his wife was unaware of everything.
A cheating incident is like throwing a stone into a calm lake, causing ripples that can never be restored to calm.
How Should Women Face Infidelity?
Someone once said, “Infidelity is an accident in marriage, but returning is an opportunity for the two hearts to reunite.”
A man’s return can be a chance to repair the damaged relationship.
However, a broken mirror can never be restored to its original state.
Even if the couple stays together, the scar will always be there, waiting to be exposed and hurt each other again.
once said:“I don’t believe in a ‘sterilized marriage’ that has no problems; even couples who have been together for a lifetime must have had issues, and it’s impossible for them to have never cheated, even mentally.”
So, when her husband cheated, she chose to forgive with the phrase “let’s take it one step at a time.”
But five years later, she still chose to divorce.
How should women face infidelity?
First, they must maintain a clear head, understand their true feelings, and make a decision that benefits themselves.
Don’t lose yourself in the process of forgiving or leaving.
Remember, marriage is not a woman’s ultimate destination; she is.
A wise woman once said:
“ Hold him in the palm of your hand, and he’s a delicate vase; let go, and he’s just a broken shard.”
Women, remember to love yourself, stay calm, and then love others.