I have a friend who is very affectionate towards her husband, willing to give her heart completely.
But her husband doesn’t appreciate it. He never cares for her, doesn’t show any concern, and never helps with household chores.
She couldn’t understand why, despite her efforts, he still doesn’t love her.
With our company, she changed and became “heartless.” Since her efforts weren’t appreciated, she withdrew her kindness towards him and started taking care of herself.
She focused on her career, exercised, read books daily, and went shopping with friends in her free time. She only took care of her own share of household chores and stopped helping her husband with his responsibilities.
She had given up hope and didn’t expect her husband to treat her well. But after she became “heartless,” he started to pay attention to her. He took the initiative to help with household chores and was worried she might leave him.
In relationships, the one who is loved often acts recklessly, while the one who loves more is often overlooked and taken for granted.
For men, when you show them affection, they don’t care. But when you become “heartless,” they start to value you.
Choose to be comfortable with whoever you are with, including friends. When tired, take a step back. Treat those who truly understand you like royalty and don’t bother with those who don’t.
Starting today, be a “heartless” woman. Hopefully, you’ll understand that in these 3 aspects, being “heartless” will make men love you more.
When he doesn’t care about you, be moderately indifferent to him
If a man is indifferent to you and you continue to be kind, it won’t impress him. It will only make him think he can easily control you.
Just like in the example above, during courtship, men are caring and attentive. But after marriage, they become indifferent.
Don’t bother with men like this. The more you try to please him, the more he will take you for granted. When you feel the relationship is drifting apart and he doesn’t care as much, be indifferent to him, focus on yourself, and do your own thing.
When you stop being soft-hearted and are indifferent to men who don’t care about you, they will seek your approval and care for you, genuinely valuing you.
Always prioritize your own matters and feelings
Sophie Marceau once said, “The saddest thing for a woman is not aging, but losing herself in marriage and a mundane life.”
When with a man, the worst thing is to give up your own interests, love what he loves, and wholeheartedly center your life around him.
Many women will sacrifice their own interests, adapt to their man’s preferences, and be at his beck and call.
For example, if he suddenly wants barbecue but you prefer congee, you immediately agree without hesitation. And if he cancels last minute, you agree to reschedule.
To him, you are at his beck and call.
Continuing like this, you will not only lose your personal charm but also your attractiveness. He will look down on you because you are too compliant, deeming you of low value.
Men always like to chase what they can’t easily have. If you follow his every whim, he won’t cherish you.
So, be a bit heartless, always prioritize yourself, and put your matters and feelings first. If he wants barbecue but you prefer congee, tell him so.
If he wants to go out but you have plans with friends, decline. If he wants to watch a movie but you have work, tell him to wait until you’re free.
The less you prioritize his matters and feelings, the more indifferent you are in this aspect, the more he will be intrigued by you and find your life colorful and charming, becoming deeply infatuated with you.
Never easily forgive a man’s mistakes
Someone asks, “Why don’t others take me seriously?”
One person replies, “Because you are too accommodating, have no principles, and no boundaries. They feel they can mistreat you without consequences, so they won’t respect you.”
In relationships, once a man sees you have no boundaries, he will take advantage of you without hesitation, blatantly hurting you.
In relationships, conflicts and clashes are inevitable. We can be tolerant and understanding until our boundaries are crossed. At that point, we must not be soft-hearted and tolerate everything.
Establish your boundaries early in the relationship. Make it clear that you have principles and won’t be a pushover.
You are with him to be happy, not to compromise and allow him to trample on your dignity. Your affection and love should be reserved for someone deserving.
If you can be “heartless” in these 3 aspects, men will not dare to underestimate you or treat you casually.
Instead, they will hold you in high regard, see you as a challenging and intriguing woman, and put effort into winning you over.
And with this demeanor, you will be especially charming, captivating him deeply, and he will go out of his way to treat you well. Because he knows that if he doesn’t, he might lose you.