Do you regret marrying your current husband?
There are 1000 women, and 1000 different opinions.
Some people feel no regrets, and they would still choose to be together in their next life.
Some people think that no matter who they marry, they will always have regrets.
A certain institution conducted a survey on married women.
The survey showed that 20.6% of women often regret getting married, and 56% of women sometimes regret it.
Those who can enter into marriage are initially all striving for “holding hands, growing old together.”
However, some people, in the midst of life’s mundane routines and petty squabbles, turn into bitter enemies.
So, some people regret, and they escape.
There’s a saying: “People always think that the road not taken is paved with flowers.”
In fact, whether or not you regret, you need to have your own wisdom and judgment.
If it’s not good, don’t complain, because life has many experiences more important than marriage.
If you’re unhappy, then take action, don’t just sit there, and don’t be envious of others.
If your marriage is happy, then cherish it even more.
Cut Off Immediately, and You Can Live Without Anyone
A friend got pregnant and had a child, only to discover that her husband was having an affair with a female colleague.
At first, my friend chose to tolerate it for the sake of the child, but her husband’s behavior became more and more outrageous.
Not only did he give her clothes to the female colleague to wear, but he also frequently interacted with her, sending flirtatious messages.
My friend was extremely hurt, and she presented the evidence to her husband, hoping to awaken his conscience.
But unexpectedly, her husband showed no remorse, and instead, he blamed her for being hot-tempered and suspicious, even mocking her for becoming a “yellow-faced woman” after giving birth.
Despite feeling full of grievances, my friend still forced herself to cook meals.
However, her husband picked on her cooking, saying it was too salty, and he stormed out of the house.
In the end, my friend couldn’t take it anymore and decided to divorce.
Unexpectedly, her husband refused, thinking it would make him lose face in front of his family and friends.
Fortunately, my friend saw through her husband’s selfish and cruel nature and didn’t waver, sticking to her decision.
In the eyes of an unscrupulous partner, all mistakes and wrongdoings can be blamed on you.
However, in this world, no one is indispensable, and no one is born to be controlled and criticized.
Marriage is a cooperation that requires honesty, trust, and respect from both parties.
Once one party chooses to betray, this cooperation loses its meaning.
No matter how many regrets we have, we should listen to our inner voice and make a firm and unregretful choice.
Do You Want to Divorce? Your Heart Has the Final Say
I saw a couple like this.
The husband wanted to grow vegetables in the backyard, while the wife was passionate about planting flowers.
The two had severe conflicts, arguing nonstop, and the backyard was left abandoned.
The wife was furious and wanted a divorce, feeling that her husband was being unreasonable.
The husband thought the wife was too controlling and wanted to dominate everything.
Later, the two sat down and had a deep conversation, finally finding a solution.
The husband sincerely expressed his reasons for wanting to grow vegetables—because he enjoyed the joy of harvesting in his childhood.
The wife explained that she wanted to plant flowers because she thought they were beautiful and could add warmth to their home.
In the end, they reached a compromise—the husband opened up a small vegetable garden, and the wife planted flowers in front of the garden as a screen.
Both of their needs were met, and their marriage was saved.
In marriage, the most toxic partner is one who always blames the other for problems, without considering the other’s needs or the essence of the problem, without communication, understanding, or solution.
Such an attitude will only make misunderstandings deeper, and the situation will worsen, ultimately leading to the breakdown of the marriage.
Some people’s marriages are not going well, and they can’t divorce.
They don’t have the courage to face reality, nor do they have the determination to repair the cracks, and they’re stuck in a painful and struggling marriage.
At this time, they will think, if they married someone else, would it be better?
However, the answer is unknown.
After all, the many flaws and problems we can’t stand in our partner, and the unbearable issues, might reappear with someone else.
Perhaps changing partners is just repeating the same trivial matters and conflicts.
Living together is not easy, and it’s inevitable to have conflicts and the urge to divorce, but tolerance and understanding are the necessary paths for marriage.
If you blame, I accuse, you sulk, and I don’t listen.
Then, even if there’s no fundamental problem, the marriage will still end in divorce.
Such an ending, both parties are responsible, because they didn’t manage their relationship well.
If the marriage can still be saved, then make an effort to rescue this relationship, instead of complaining and struggling in the quagmire of marriage.
However, ultimately, the choice is yours, and your heart has the final say.
No Regrets, Because of Love
Those women who walked into marriage without regrets all have love overflowing in their lives, becoming better versions of themselves.
My friend’s husband, although not a romantic, worked hard to create a better life for his family.
He not only worked diligently but also took care of his family, cooking meals for them every weekend and focusing on scientific parenting, willing to accompany his son as he grew up.
My friend once said, “We’ve been married for almost ten years, and I’ve never regretted marrying him! We’ve already agreed to be together in our next life.”
In marriage, we need to learn to see the good in each other, cherish each other’s sacrifices and company.
Love life, be kind to your partner, respect marriage, and live every day with a grateful heart—that’s the true meaning of love.
“If one has a lifelong partner, it’s oneself.”
Therefore, in the complexities and trifles of marriage, we need to learn to purify our hearts, releasing pent-up emotions.
Don’t always blame yourself, and don’t give in easily.
Don’t over-control your partner, and don’t forget self-growth.
If the marriage has completely broken down, then it’s better to cut ties and set each other free.
If the relationship still has a chance, then use your heart to manage it, and use love to nourish it, letting the emotional wounds heal in understanding and tolerance.
Marriage is like drinking water—it’s up to each individual to decide what’s good or bad.
I hope that when others ask, women can smile and confidently say, “I don’t regret marrying my husband this life, and I’ll still choose him in my next life!”