There’s a saying: “When someone loves you, their eyes will reveal uncontrollable happiness and sweetness. When someone despises you, their eyes will show impatience and avoidance. Don’t listen to what others say about love. People lie. Look into their eyes and observe their subtle expressions. Remember, only attitudes don’t lie.”
Indeed, the subtle expressions and attitudes when someone falls in love are their “instinctive reactions.”
Understanding “instinctive reactions” refers to behaviors innate to individuals without the need for learning or imitation.
In simpler terms, “instinctive reactions” are reflexive behaviors without conscious thought. They are truthful.
If a woman wants to know if a man loves her, she should observe his “instinctive reactions” during their interactions.
I knew a married couple who had been together for decades, raised children, yet the wife wanted a divorce.
Everyone was puzzled. Some said her husband was decent, at least he provided her with a monthly salary.
Others advised her to stop causing trouble in her fifties, as it would bring shame to her and the children.
However, the wife felt deeply wronged. For years, she felt her husband didn’t love her enough.
During their courtship, when the husband was sick, only the wife cared for him as his parents were afraid of contagion. But when the wife fell ill, the husband showed no concern.
The wife was mistreated by her in-laws, forced to do all chores, while the husband did not fulfill his responsibilities.
When the husband’s sister borrowed money and didn’t return it, he hesitated to confront them, leaving them hungry.
As the time to pay their child’s tuition approached, the wife, asking about the money, was scolded and almost hit by her in-laws, while her husband sat eating without saying a word.
At that moment, the wife felt deeply disappointed, asked for a divorce. The husband disagreed, promised to change, and the family moved to the city at the wife’s insistence.
The wife thought it was a new beginning, but as they aged, the husband, exposed to new things at work, began criticizing her appearance and engaging in emotional abuse.
Through her husband’s “instinctive reactions” to situations, the wife understood he didn’t love her.
This wife’s experience can inspire women trapped in love. If unsure of a man’s love, observe his instinctive reactions to avoid wasting emotions on someone who doesn’t love you.
No need to test him or ask. His instinctive reactions reveal the truth.
A man who loves you will worry if you don’t reply for long.
If a man loves you, he will contact you daily. Even reserved men become proactive when in love.
If you delay replying, a man who loves you will worry and reach out, fearing for your safety.
His instinctive reactions depict his love for you.
A man who loves you will immediately try to cheer you up when you’re upset.
When you’re upset, a man who loves you will go to great lengths to make you smile, even being silly. This shows your importance to him.
If a man disregards your feelings and does nothing when you’re unhappy, he doesn’t love you. His actions are selfish, seeking self-gratification.
A man who loves you will instinctively protect you in danger.
A man who truly loves you will shield you from harm in perilous situations, physically or verbally, standing by your side unconditionally.
Conversely, a man who always hides behind you in tough times, making you face all challenges, is not only unloving but also selfish, lacking responsibility and seeking only pleasure in love.
A man’s “instinctive reactions” truly reveal if he loves you.
A man’s body language speaks volumes about his love. He will act for you if he loves you; otherwise, he won’t.
Avoid the latter kind of man to prevent giving everything without receiving anything in return.
As someone said: “To love someone is to give them gentle spring rain, not annoying dust storms; summer shade and the first bite of watermelon, not scorching heat; just light and warmth, shielding from bitter winds and sharp arrows, all kept at bay.”
These instinctive acts of giving the best to the other person demonstrate a man’s “instinctive reactions” in love—wanting to offer the best out of deep affection.