If you lack the desire for intimate contact, like wanting to hear each other’s voices, see each other’s presence, hold hands, hug, kiss…
Even the most basic sexual impulse becomes weak. Then, you are likely to end up as friends.
For couples who have been married for many years, this lack of desire may turn love into affection.
The root of these problems is the fading desire for intimate contact. So, how can you reignite this desire, make a man yearn for you, and desire to be close to you?
Enhance Your Outer Beauty
External appearance is the most obvious. If you are very good-looking, have a great figure, or both, you may naturally evoke a man’s desire because men are mostly visual creatures.
Therefore, we can try to enhance our appearance, such as dressing up, finding our style, suitable makeup, hairstyle, etc., to boost our outer beauty.
Your expression and aura are also crucial, like a dominant CEO and a real estate agent, both in suits but with completely different vibes.
Scientific research proves that many mammals secrete a substance called pheromones, which can be captured through smell.
In short, scent plays a vital role in attracting the opposite sex.
So, perfume is worth trying.
In a direct way, you can invite a friend of the opposite sex or your husband to help you choose a perfume. This kind of date is quite romantic.
Moreover, what he picks for you will definitely be a scent he likes. When the perfume he picked for you exudes a charming fragrance on you, he will naturally be more attracted to you.
Flirting Through Language
We can showcase our gender charm through language to stimulate the other’s imagination and create a certain allure.
For instance, when you tell a man you like wearing a black dress with red high heels, even if you are not dressed like that now, he will subconsciously imagine you in that outfit and eagerly anticipate it.
This is to reveal ourselves through language and ignite a man’s desire for intimate contact.
Through language, we can also praise the other’s gender charm to express your interest in him, thus sparking his interest in you.
For example, “I see you work out often, do you have abs?” “Your lips are full and look very enticing” “The way you focused on cooking just now is so sexy”…
The mention of “abs,” especially words like “enticing” and “sexy,” immediately adds a seductive touch.
By arousing desire through language, the key is not only to praise but also to praise on a gender level, adding your feelings and evaluation.
This kind of flirtation through language narrows the distance between you and makes a man develop a strong interest in you.
Flirting Through Actions
Stimulating a man’s desire for intimacy through actions, namely physical contact like kissing, hugging, lifting…
At the right moment, engage in some intimate physical contact. For example, if you see a leaf on his hair or clothes, casually help him remove it.
This gesture appears affectionate but not too deliberate or abrupt.
As your relationship heats up, you can try more intimate contact. For instance, if you want to hold your crush’s hand, you wouldn’t just grab it; you can use some tricks.
For example, examining the lines on his hand, palmistry, or saying he applied too much hand cream, and you need some too. This naturally closes the distance between you two without seeming abrupt.
Create Some Obstacles
When there is already a certain attraction between you, creating some obstacles can further arouse a man’s stronger desire.
Think about it, when do we especially yearn to be close to our crush? It’s when our desire for them is not yet fulfilled, right?
You desire this person intimately, but you haven’t gotten there yet; there’s a barrier between you.
This current state doesn’t satisfy you, so you eagerly want to break this barrier, surpass this unsatisfied state, and further encroach. Your desire will peak at this moment.
Just like when you’re hungry, food tastes the best, and it’s the most fragrant.
When a man asks you out, you can refuse a couple of times, be elusive, and he will love you more. It’s adding a bit of obstruction on the basis of attraction.
However, we shouldn’t refuse too much, as enthusiasm may wane, possibly leading to giving up halfway.
Therefore, don’t keep refusing persistently; it’s best to add some anticipation while rejecting. For instance, if he asks you out for dinner, you can say:
“These days I’m a bit busy and can’t go. But there’s a great movie releasing this weekend. If you like it too, we can watch it together.”
For example, when you two are all set to kiss, but as his face inches closer, you just peck his cheek. This sets a barrier but also gives a sweet taste.
When you two are all lovey-dovey, you push him away. You could have done it, but you didn’t. This action becomes enticing, and he will strongly desire to break this barrier.
And when he finally overcomes these obstacles and satisfies his desire, that satisfaction will be stronger than ever before.
Lastly, keep the desire for intimate contact alive at all times, nurture your relationship with care.
Love needs mutual efforts, and only when you treat it sincerely will it reciprocate in the same way. Believe that you can create your own happiness and beauty.