To determine if a man is reliable and trustworthy is actually quite simple. Just treat him sincerely without expecting anything in return at first. Observe whether he considers you a genuine partner and values you over time. Eventually, you’ll see if he is playing tricks behind your back, taking advantage of you, or truly cherishing you.
Unveiling a man’s true colors is like playing cards, it requires patience. Take your time, observe a few rounds, and wait for him to reveal his hand. Then, discuss commitments and observe how he handles issues.
When it comes to crucial moments, unreliable men fear problem-solving the most. They prefer to evade, delay, and test you repeatedly to see if you will forget their wrongdoings. If you are easily deceived, they will continue to take advantage; if not, they will give up and move on to the next target. Reliable men, on the other hand, proactively solve problems, communicate with you, care about you, and strive to improve your life. They are the ones who genuinely care about your well-being.
Recently, Jane encountered a tricky situation where her boyfriend’s friend kept borrowing money from him. Despite being a student with limited funds, the friend had not returned the $700 previously borrowed and now wanted to take out a loan through him. Jane’s boyfriend knew he shouldn’t lend money but hesitated to refuse directly, fearing it might affect their relationship and lead to future awkward encounters.
Jane was furious about this. She believed that the so-called friend disregarded his feelings, and her boyfriend was considering maintaining this relationship. Surprisingly, instead of being grateful, her boyfriend thought Jane’s temper was too much and even considered ending the relationship.
Sharing this with her friends resulted in mixed opinions. Some comforted her by saying, “He’s just your boyfriend, you don’t need to worry about his money or choose his friends.” While another friend saw this as an opportunity, “Think about it, if you get married, your finances might disappear this way too. It’s not too late to realize it now, think it through.”
Jane felt conflicted. She thought she was doing it for her boyfriend’s good, but why didn’t he appreciate it and instead found fault with her temper? She couldn’t understand and complained to her friends, “We’ve already broken up because of this. I just can’t understand why he doesn’t realize I was doing it for his own good and instead thinks I’m too temperamental?”
Her friends analyzed, “Either he’s too kind-hearted or simply a pushover. A genuinely good person will help but definitely has their limits.” They all agreed that breaking up might not be a bad thing. If even with obviously ill-intentioned friends he had no boundaries, living together or being married would surely lead to more conflicts due to his ‘overly nice’ behavior.
Strangely, such people would rather be used by friends than listen to advice from those around them. However, everyone believed that these people would eventually suffer many losses in life.
Although Jane lost a boyfriend, she learned how to identify a person’s true nature and the importance of maintaining clear boundaries in relationships.
In social interactions, there’s no need to be overly cautious at the start. Trustworthy people will always stand the test. Treat each other sincerely, and if the other party cannot reciprocate your sincerity, then move on to find the right person. There is always someone who is right for you.
This principle also applies in interpersonal relationships. To determine if a person is worth befriending, observe how they respond to your kindness. Those who know how to reciprocate your kindness are worth your friendship, while those who only know how to take without giving will become increasingly unreasonable and should be let go early on. At this point, you will naturally have an answer and understand how to make your choices.