A good marriage is like a woman’s safe harbor, providing warmth and security even in the stormiest times.
On the contrary, a bad marriage entraps a woman, leaving her devoid of happiness throughout her life.
In a marriage, couples should support each other through life’s ups and downs. However, many couples in middle age have forgotten how to love.
Over time, couples become strangers, devoid of love.
To nurture a marriage, one must learn to empathize, understand each other’s needs, and care for each other’s feelings.
In middle age, women fear certain feelings in marriage, but many men are oblivious, making it challenging to maintain a good marriage.
Sense of grievance, lack of understanding
Recently, during a chat with my sister-in-law, she expressed deep disappointment in her marriage.
My brother is busy with work and rarely helps at home. While taking care of two kids and looking after her ailing mother-in-law, my sister-in-law also works part-time.
Her part-time income has matched my brother’s in the past two years.
At times overwhelmed, she hoped my brother would share more household responsibilities and help with the kids’ homework. However, he brushed it off, claiming these were her duties.
Feeling aggrieved, she mentioned how my brother neglected household issues like clogged drains and broken windows, leaving her to handle everything.
If not for her concern for the children, she would consider divorce.
In marriage, middle-aged women desire little. Amid life’s pressures, they seek understanding from their husbands.
They wish their efforts were acknowledged, their hard work appreciated, and their struggles sympathized with.
In middle age, women fear investing too much time and energy in maintaining their families, only to be deemed inadequate by men.
Without gratitude and respect from men, women feel their lives are worthless.
If a woman’s selfless efforts go unnoticed, and all she receives is criticism and annoyance, she will be overwhelmed with grievances.
Betrayal, overturning of deep affection
By middle age, women have deeply embedded their hearts in marriage.
Wholeheartedly, they intend to spend their lives with their husbands, pouring out all their love to nurture their families.
Family, husband, and children become a woman’s world.
In middle age, women fear betrayal the most, dreading the overturning of every little moment they shared with their husbands.
If a man betrays the marriage, a woman is devastated. Unable to leave due to age and limited options, she endures the agony, left numb in a failing marriage.
Faced with a husband’s betrayal in middle age, women dare not divorce, knowing they are no longer young and have few alternatives.
Even deep love turns into resentment.
Reluctant to leave, they endure emotional torment for the sake of survival.
Men, regardless of career success or a wife’s love, should never betray their marriage lightly.
Betrayal erodes the bond between two people and the marriage itself.
Neglect, a tormenting cycle
In middle-aged marriages, individuals begin leading separate lives.
At some point, they each carve out their own existence.
Yet, women, regardless of age, still yearn for a loving relationship, hoping to be cherished and protected by their beloved men.
If, in middle age, men neglect their marriages and fail to care for their wives’ feelings, women feel deeply disappointed.
The sense of neglect from men makes women feel unloved and unappreciated.
Women silently question whether their husbands still love them, tortured repeatedly by this doubt.
Women need nurturing, especially as they age and face life’s challenges, requiring emotional solace.
If devoid of this in marriage, their hearts turn cold, unable to sense joy.
Without love from their husbands, women feel no warmth in marriage, making life dull and uninspiring.
In middle age, life is somewhat settled, urging one to cherish existing happiness.
Nurture marriage with care, and treat your wife kindly.
Love is understanding, protection, and loyalty.
Men should offer more understanding to their wives, compliment them, and rediscover the feelings of romance together.
By keeping their wives radiant like flowers, husbands can look forward to a better life in their golden years.