Emotions are Never Fair
In this world, there’s never been “fairness,” including in relationships.
In intimate relationships, one side is often cautious and fragile, while the other accepts love and care.
Mutual love rarely happens among adults. In student days, you may encounter mutual love; later, after 25, it’s rare.
What usually happens?
One develops feelings first, invests, and bears the costs. The other joins, and both work on the relationship.
The best scenario is cherishing each other’s efforts, understanding hardships, accepting flaws, and reciprocating.
No one can always give or initiate. Only mutual efforts make sense.
Even with a soulmate, if you don’t nurture the relationship, they’ll leave.
What you want, need, and how to possess it are crucial questions for everyone.
The Essence of Emotions is not about Winning or Losing
Many fall into the trap of wanting to win and dominate in relationships.
Winning face loses hearts; winning the person loses the connection.
Why bother? Being together means giving way to each other.
Bantering is fun—push and pull uniquely define a relationship.
But if you’re aggressive and the other harsher, is that intimacy?
Even if lovers or spouses, you’re the closest. Even if you flip a table, occasional quirks are tolerated out of love and understanding.
Childishness and petulance in intimate relationships rely on love, tolerance, and understanding.
If with a loved one, don’t act like a “giant baby.”
Open Your Inner World for Your Relationship to Progress
Many in relationships say, “I’m upset but won’t tell,” or “I’m unhappy but won’t speak up.”
From the start, unwillingness to be straightforward hinders progress.
If upset, speak up; if something bothers you, express it; if there’s a difference, communicate promptly.
Not speaking up leaves the other clueless. Sulking without communication leads to misunderstandings.
The core of nurturing a relationship is open communication. Open up, and they will too.
People are a Mix of Good and Bad; No One is Perfect
You want romance, understanding, sweet talk, but be ready for empty promises and opposite-sex friends.
You seek absolute loyalty and uniqueness, but accept dullness and poor communication.
You desire grace and versatility but cope with insecurity.
You want a homemaker and nurturer, willing to share earnings and comfort inner stress.
No matter your choice, there will be regrets.
In youth, you crave romance; middle age reveals money’s reliability; old age yearns for companionship and care.
Emotions cycle. Some prefer short flings for participation; others seek stability in long-term commitments.
The key is: choose without regrets; be prepared to leave if needed.
What’s worst? Having no way to leave when you want to.
Desiring change without the skill to nurture a relationship leads to exhaustion and utter defeat.