For many women, marriage is like a high-stakes gamble. Win, and you’ll enjoy a lifetime of happiness. Lose, and you might end up with nothing.
To increase their chances of winning, many women go all out to show men their good side, hoping this will make them willingly stay.
But only smart women know that leaving room for giving can truly expand their winning situation, especially when it comes to money. The more they spend men’s money, the more men love!
Spend His Money to Prevent Him from Spending Recklessly
In the recent hit TV series “Nothing But Thirty,” there was a woman like this at Manni’s workplace. She dressed plainly, even with a hint of poverty, so other staff in the store avoided serving her, thinking she couldn’t afford luxury goods.
Although she later ordered a set of million-dollar jewelry, her life was a mess.
Living frugally, she and her husband went through tough times of struggling, only for her husband to have an affair outside.
The mistress, younger and better at spending her husband’s money, decked herself out with high-end skincare products, exquisite jewelry, luxury clothing, and bags, all bought with her husband’s money.
In the end, the husband chose to lavishly spend on the mistress and abandoned the wife who had always saved money for him, leaving many women puzzled.
Women must invest their youth, wisdom, and money in themselves.
Although in marriage or relationships, one person may need to give more, it should never be a situation where only one side is giving.
Seemingly virtuous and frugal behavior like this only brings self-satisfaction and praise from others, while husbands see it as natural. They take women’s efforts for granted, terrifyingly common but accepted.
To make men see your worth, avoid making it a routine behavior.
Spending His Money is Justified
Lily not only has financial expertise but also knows how to maximize her gains in a relationship.
Unlike her friends, once Lily and her boyfriend started dating, she made no effort to save money.
After deducting basic living expenses from her boyfriend’s monthly income, all the remaining money went towards Lily—be it dining out, watching movies, buying clothes, or skincare products, all on her boyfriend’s tab.
Occasionally, Lily buys her boyfriend gifts like razors or lighters, relatively inexpensive items, yet his feelings for her remain unchanged.
Men, like everyone else, want to express their feelings. They want to share all the wonderful things with their loved ones and are willing to spend on women.
Men who are willing to spend on women may not necessarily love them truly, but those unwilling to spend on women definitely do not love them.
So, women should never go out of their way to save money for men because men don’t need women to save money for them.
Some men may even think that women save money because they feel inadequate, unable to provide a better material life, so they have to sacrifice themselves. This is intolerable for their self-esteem.
Spending His Money Makes Him Hesitate to Break Up
For as long as Jack’s relationship lasted, friends advised him to break up because his partner spent money too freely.
Originally, Jack had quality requirements for life, but ever since he started dating, he relied on friends for cigarettes, mainly ate discounted takeout, and hardly bought new clothes or shoes.
He lived so frugally to save money for his girlfriend to spend.
Initially, he was happy to save this money and buy gifts for his girlfriend, making her happy, which in turn made him happy.
However, his friends couldn’t stand seeing him live so poorly and advised him to break up. Jack, on the other hand, felt he had invested too much in his girlfriend already and breaking up now would be a huge loss.
This may sound like a joke, but it represents a real situation for some. Because they’ve spent so much money on women, men cherish them more and are less likely to let go. After all, everyone is just regular people; starting a new relationship economically is not feasible.
While smart women use men’s money to bind their hearts, it doesn’t mean they can be extravagant. Especially when the man’s financial ability is limited, demanding purchases beyond his means will only push him away.
Women should learn to invest at all times, confront material desires, not be controlled by them. So, while spending men’s money, also learn to give appropriately, making the other person feel your love. A two-way exchange ensures a more enduring relationship.