In our lives, the family is an institution, and within the family, the relationship between spouses is undoubtedly the heart and the foundation of the entire family’s stability.
A healthy marital relationship not only brings happiness to oneself but also provides a good environment for children to grow up in.
So, how can we cultivate a happy and harmonious marital relationship? Here are a set of principles: three more, three less, and three don’ts.
Three More
More Understanding
Understanding is a strength that can resolve arguments and diminish conflicts.
No two people in the world are exactly the same, even spouses have many differences.
Looking at each other’s differences with understanding, respecting each other’s personalities can reduce friction and increase harmony.
More Tolerance
Love is accepting all the strengths and weaknesses of each other.
Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses; no one is flawless.
As spouses, we should tolerate each other, not overly demand perfection from each other, to build an atmosphere of equality and harmony.
More Communication
In daily life, people easily get caught up in their own troubles, neglecting communication with their partners.
Communication can eliminate misunderstandings and bring each other closer.
Therefore, we should listen more to each other’s thoughts, share our feelings, let the other person know our needs, and swiftly resolve issues.
Three Less
Less Complaining
Small conflicts and friction between spouses are inevitable, but expressing grievances in detail does not solve the problem; it may instead intensify the other person’s resistance.
Less Arguing
Arguing not only fails to solve problems but also triggers larger conflicts.
Research has shown that frequent arguments can affect the intimacy and physical health of couples.
Less Nitpicking
Marital relationships are not simple calculations; they cannot be measured by “you owe me” or “I owe you.”
With more tolerance and understanding between spouses, and less nitpicking and fighting, life will naturally become better.
Three Don’ts
Don’t Compare
Everyone has their own way of life and values; don’t always compare yourself to others, as it will only bring endless worries.
Don’t Neglect
Neglect can be one of the most fatal forms of harm.
No matter how busy work is or how stressful life gets, remember, your partner needs your attention and care.
Don’t Give Up Easily
Coming together is not easy; if faced with difficulties and setbacks, don’t easily say give up.
Believe that with effort, anything is possible.
In the maze of life, we have found a way out through the methods of three more, three less, and three don’ts.
Let’s continue learning, strive to improve our emotional and intellectual intelligence, making family life more harmonious and happier.