What is true love?
Shakespeare once said:
True love cannot be expressed in words, actions speak louder.
The person who loves you may not say many sweet words, but he will definitely awkwardly and simply express his sincere love for you through actions.
If someone loves you and wants to spend their life with you, why would they keep you out of their circle?
So, the person who loves you will make you a part of their life and proactively do these three things.
The Man Will Proactively Think of You
Tang Dynasty poet Cangyang Gyatso once wrote:
For many years, you have been residing in my heart’s wound, I have let go of the world but never let go of you, in my life’s ups and downs, I bid farewell to everything but you.
A man who loves you will let you into his heart, how can he forget you or not miss you?
Ordinary love doesn’t always have grand moments, but this deep and enduring affection is reflected in the little things in life.
Several middle-aged men in suits and leather shoes at the amusement park, looking out of place, became spirited upon hearing about a float parade soon to arrive.
Like the young people around them, they also took out their phones, not to take pictures for social media, but to call their wives back home, eager to share the parade with their loved ones.
What is true love?
It’s a man constantly thinking of you, wanting to share every new and exciting thing he sees or experiences with you;
Conversely, a man who only focuses on his own satisfaction and emotions, forgetting about his partner when things are going well.
To know if a man loves you, see if you are always on his mind, if he misses you constantly in the relationship.
The Man Will Proactively Include You in His Social Circle
In love, there is a toxic dynamic that must be avoided—unilateral relationships, where even though two people are in love, only one unconditionally obeys the other.
In such relationships, the favored one doesn’t care about the other’s feelings, they accept all the efforts made by their partner but never reciprocate.
For example, they can comfortably accept expensive gifts from you without ever giving back; they enjoy the conveniences you provide but never let you into their circle.
A man who truly loves you will be proud to have you, how could he hide you and not want to show you off? He wishes he could shout to the world, “This is my girlfriend, mine alone.”
Conversely, a partner who keeps you hidden, regardless of their intentions, their love is not pure or genuine.
One’s life isn’t just about their circle, but the family and friends within it are almost lifelong relationships, almost equivalent to personal privacy.
A man willing to include you in his circle is presenting his true self to you without holding back.
This is his way of expressing his open-hearted love and taking this relationship seriously.
The Man Will Proactively Plan for the Future
Sasha made plans with her boyfriend to both work hard, study for exams alone, and earn money at work, then get married once they both succeed.
In order to earn more money, Sasha gave up a job related to her graduate studies and started working in sales.
Though the job was tough and stressful, she saw her boyfriend working hard as well, and the thought of their future together filled her with determination.
Later, when her boyfriend succeeded, Sasha realized he hadn’t mentioned their future for a long time.
The ending was cliché, it was either the one who succeeded first leaving the other, or a dramatic breakup with blame and insults.
Whether the man truly loved Sasha or just used her as a tool, the damage from the ending was done and irreparable.
When two people are in love, hesitant to show sincerity and plan for the future, how can they fulfill promises when breaking up?
A man who deeply loves you, who wants to spend his life with you, will sincerely include you in his future, carefully plan and strive to make it a reality because it’s your life together.
Conversely, a man who sees you as a temporary companion in his life journey won’t consider the future with you because he never thought you’d be part of his future.
In love, a man who showers you with sweet words may not truly love you;
But a man who is passive and reluctant likely doesn’t love you, or not enough.
Therefore, to understand a man’s feelings towards you, don’t just focus on his initiative, also observe these three aspects closely:
- Will he think of you proactively?
- Will he include you in his social circle proactively?
- Will he plan your future together proactively?