Some people say, “Marriage is the encounter of two souls, and it’s also the guardian of two hearts.”
No matter who we choose to spend our lives with, we should understand that a happy marriage requires not only courage to face setbacks but also the emotional capacity to tolerate each other. Even when we encounter life’s storms, we can still hold hands, support each other, and let love shine brighter in the rain.
Regardless of whether we’re a married couple or lovers, a long-lasting relationship cannot exist without these three essential elements: “jianghu qi” (a sense of camaraderie and loyalty).
“Jianghu qi” is the unyielding spirit of loyalty and dedication.
“Why do people get married? Isn’t it because life is hard, and we need someone to share the burden with?”
In life’s journey, we can’t avoid frustration and pain. However, the bond between spouses, which is based on shared hardships and mutual support, can not only resist life’s tribulations but also become the deepest foundation of a marriage.
Only by being loyal and reliable can we become each other’s rock, turning life’s bitterness into poetic sweetness.
The story of Sanmao and Hollis is a legendary tale of deep love.
Their love transcended the obstacles of age, life, and fate.
Once, Sanmao was deeply attracted to a golden desert landscape in a magazine.
Hollis, who originally had a dream of diving in the Aegean Sea, gave up his plan and accompanied Sanmao to the desolate Sahara Desert.
In the vast and lonely desert, they didn’t have a luxurious wedding or a romantic trip, and they didn’t even wear wedding rings. However, their hearts were still filled with sweetness and happiness.
The hardships of life, such as lacking water and electricity, were just a test of their love.
They used tires as chairs and coffins as desks, decorating the barren land with love.
As George Saunders once said, “Love is a promise, a responsibility, and a commitment.”
A happy marriage is not built on sweet nothings, but on the actions that fulfill that promise, using our hearts to guard that responsibility.
No matter how sweet the vows may be, they can’t compare to the mutual support and deep protection that comes from weathering life’s storms together.
The “jianghu qi” in a marriage is the spirit of mutual support and growth on life’s journey.
In this ever-changing world, the only treasure we have is the companionship and protection that remains unchanged.
“Jianghu qi” is the Honest and Gentle Breeze of Marriage
Someone asked, “Would you deceive your partner?”
Someone replied, “If it’s a white lie, maybe I would choose to lie.”
However, in an intimate relationship, even a well-intentioned concealment can lead to the collapse of trust, intensify conflicts, and shake the foundation of the marriage.
The best marriage should be built on honesty and trust. Only then can emotions deepen, and relationships become more solid.
Xin Baiqing and his wife, Zhu Yanyan, have been together since college and are considered a model couple in the entertainment industry.
In an interview, when asked about his intimate scenes with a female actor, Xin Baiqing frankly replied, “No.”
Zhu Yanyan looked unhappy and asked, “Then who do you think of?”
He gently pulled her arm and explained, “I’m acting as someone else.”
This honest and professional attitude made Zhu Yanyan smile.
They often had to make choices between family and career, but they never argued about it.
Zhu Yanyan once said that silence and arrogance would only drive relationships further apart, and that only through honest communication could they better understand each other’s needs.
Honesty is not only about expressing our inner thoughts directly but also about accepting each other wholeheartedly, exploring the depths of each other’s souls.
Those marriages filled with trust and understanding are built on the foundation of honest communication.
Those marriages filled with doubts and estrangement often stem from intentional concealment and distancing.
Marriage is like a small boat sailing on the vast ocean, often facing storms and challenges.
If the two people cannot be honest and gentle with each other, it’s hard to navigate through the difficulties.
The “jianghu qi” in a marriage is the trust and mutual support that enables us to move forward together.
“Jianghu qi” is the Blessing of a Long-Lasting Marriage
Someone once said, “What truly drives love is not intense passion, but the accumulation of trivial moments.”
I deeply agree.
In the ordinary days, what tests a couple’s emotions is not the romantic gestures, but the challenging times.
Qian Zhongshu once compared marriage to a besieged fortress, but his marriage to Yang Jiang was an exception.
The two of them went through life’s ups and downs together, and their love remained unchanged.
In the numerous ordinary days, Yang Jiang often told Qian Zhongshu, “Don’t worry, I’ll handle it.”
Yang Jiang wrote, “Qian Zhongshu often says he’s clumsy.”
“I only know he can’t tie a bow tie, can’t tell left from right, and holds chopsticks like a child.”
“I don’t know about other aspects, but I know he’s clumsy.”
When Qian Zhongshu occasionally made mistakes, Yang Jiang never got angry or complained, instead accepting him with tolerance and understanding.
After having a daughter, Qian Zhongshu’s childishness often made Yang Jiang laugh.
He would draw on Yang Jiang’s face, paint on their daughter’s belly, and even leave a poem on her desk, signing it as his wife.
In Yang Jiang’s eyes, her husband’s childish antics not only didn’t hurt her feelings but also added fun to their lives.
Later, with Yang Jiang’s encouragement, Qian Zhongshu started creating.
To let him focus on writing, Yang Jiang took charge of the household chores, even firing the servants to save money.
Her busy figure, making coal balls and cooking, made Qian Zhongshu’s mother sigh, saying he had “good fortune.”
When they had free time in the evening, Qian Zhongshu would share his creations with Yang Jiang, and they would discuss them together.
Life’s turmoil and hardships didn’t erase their love.
It was the mutual encouragement and support that gave them the strength and warmth to move forward, turning bitterness into sweetness.
In the stormy days, they protected each other, becoming each other’s indispensable reliance.
The blessing of a long-lasting marriage doesn’t lie in wealth or romantic passion but in that kind of “jianghu qi” love and understanding.
Long-term companionship and appreciation not only nourish the soul but also make each other better, giving marriage its best temperature.
“Life’s greatest luxury is not those extravagant material pleasures but the person who loves you deeply and accompanies you through life’s ordinary days.”
Life is long, and a happy marriage needs a bit of that “jianghu qi.”
This rare and precious emotional bond not only represents an unyielding promise but also a sense of responsibility.
It’s not endless sweet talk, but the determination to hold hands and face life’s challenges together.
May your marriage, no matter what stage of life you’re in, always maintain that precious “jianghu qi,” holding hands and weathering life’s storms together.