Marriage is like gears, they need to work well together for the big machine of marriage to run smoothly.
Having a wise wife can help a man develop his career smoothly.
However, if a woman in marriage has a narrow mindset, constantly restricts the man’s growth, interferes with his decisions, or becomes a burden to him, it will inevitably drag him down.
A good marriage allows spouses to help each other succeed. But in a bad marriage, one party can bring down the other.
In life, there are three types of women that, if a man marries, can hinder his career, making success difficult in this lifetime. Be cautious.
Admiring Vanity and Enjoying Spending Money
Women who admire vanity often use love as an excuse to spend a man’s money, seeing him as an “ATM.”
For example, a friend’s girlfriend always asks him to buy gifts on special occasions. Initially, she wanted a few hundred dollars for a brand-name scarf, then she wanted dresses worth thousands of dollars, and bags worth tens of thousands.
Although they got along well, he was a working-class guy who couldn’t afford such lavish spending. Whenever he refused, his girlfriend threatened to break up.
To maintain their relationship, he had to comply with her demands.
When his friend invited him to start a business with a startup fund of $100,000, he couldn’t contribute, missing out on the opportunity.
Now that the friend’s business is thriving, he envies him and resents his girlfriend. Their arguments led to a breakup shortly after.
Women too focused on vanity live for material things. They feel happy when they have money to spend. But if they lack the ability to earn themselves and only consume a man’s money, they will inevitably drag him down.
As Bergson said:
Vanity is hard to call a vice, but all vices stem from vanity, merely serving to satisfy it.
Women with excessive vanity spend a man’s money recklessly. When a man’s savings are depleted, starting a business or running a career will face obstacles.
Fond of Comparisons, Undermining a Man’s Confidence and Direction
In life, everyone desires appreciation and recognition from those they care about.
When the neighbor’s marriage failed, the man’s wife compared him to the neighbor, criticizing his lack of ambition and money-making skills.
Despite his hard work and business trips, his wife kept complaining, saying he was not as caring as the neighbor who stayed home with his wife.
Feeling inadequate, he believed he could never measure up and became a failed husband, losing confidence in their relationship.
In a good marriage, mutual appreciation and recognition are key. Women should continuously encourage men to grow and achieve.
True fulfillment in life doesn’t come from comparisons; competing unnecessarily may not be meaningful.
If a woman constantly compares a man to others, it harms his self-esteem, destroys his dignity, and confidence, making him feel increasingly incompetent and losing motivation to progress.
Excessively Pessimistic and Negative, Influencing a Man’s Decisions
People are influenced by their environment.
A man who hears his wife’s approval and praise frequently gains confidence, driving him to work harder.
Even with minimal abilities, strong confidence can lead to exceptional performance, achieving unexpected success.
But if a man is talented yet constantly criticized and demotivated by those around him, it may shake his determination.
In a household, a wife’s excessive pessimism, focusing solely on negativity, can easily affect the family’s atmosphere.
When a man makes decisions, a pessimistic wife may oversimplify issues, only seeing the negative side, discouraging him from taking risks and missing opportunities to challenge himself.
Men should marry women who can distinguish right from wrong, with a broad mindset.
Smart men value a woman’s character, mindset, and depth over just looks and physique.
The more exceptional a woman is, planning expenses according to their actual economic situation, the more stability they can ensure in their life together.
In life, women who have vision and depth are more likely to support a man’s growth and career development. Together, couples can create a better life.