When it comes to men who truly shirk responsibilities, they are often those with weak masculinity. These men may seem harmless and cheerful on the surface, but in reality, they only seek to gain in relationships without giving back.
These men who can’t handle responsibilities often appear kind and sunny, looking like they can’t bear any harm. They treat you gently like a love song, appearing quite endearing. But here’s the thing, when faced with troubles in the relationship or the need to step up, their usual choice is to escape.
Why? It’s because they enter relationships to get, not to give. Their mindset is simple: as long as they get what they want from the relationship, everything else doesn’t matter. So, when an issue arises, they start playing hide-and-seek, avoiding both problem-solving and communication with you.
What’s even more absurd is that they come up with a tactic—to delay. By dragging things out, the problem either disappears on its own, or you give in and drop it, and it’s all swept under the rug. This kind of thinking is ultimately childish, lacking the courage and responsibility that mature men should have. Instead of bravely facing problems, they hide, hoping the storm will pass on its own.
I heard about this description, and a friend of mine almost jumped up, saying, “My ex-boyfriend was like this, with a dominant mom and a weak dad. His mom ran the show at home, spoiling him. He’s used to hiding behind others to solve problems, inherently selfish and weak, unable to handle pressure and responsibility. When you encounter such a person, leave early.”
In fact, such people are all too common. I have several around me. These children from such families seem cut from the same cloth, incredibly similar. A former boyfriend of my colleague fits this type too, summarized in her words as, “Exactly the same, dad sleeps soundly, mom handles everything, son avoids all responsibilities.”
Moreover, whether this boy is smart or highly educated doesn’t matter. Just like my colleague’s ex-boyfriend, who held bachelor’s, master’s, and doctoral degrees from a prestigious university, causing the girl to doubt herself for a long time, leaving her completely changed and scarred. It wasn’t until she identified the truth in their relationship that she decided to end it, a harsh lesson indeed!
Indeed, a girl revealed the pain of being with such a boy: “When his avoidance drives you crazy, he appears kind like an innocent child to everyone, expressing his innocence, while you suffer in silence.”
Behind their actions lies a childish mentality, lacking the resilience and strength that a man should possess. Faced with problems, they should bravely step up, demonstrating the way a mature man should handle things, rather than choosing to escape at the slightest sign of trouble.
This means that if a man lacks the courage and strength in a relationship, abandoning you at the slightest difficulty, he is actually very selfish. He is willing to enjoy the good times with you but retreats in the face of hardship.
In other words, being with such a person means that when life brings challenges, they will run away. Ultimately, this behavior reflects their selfish nature. They are willing to enjoy happy moments with you, but when real challenges arise, they disappear. These men are essentially avoiding growth, shirking the responsibility of becoming a true partner who can stand by your side.
So, if you find that your “Mr. Perfect” around you runs away at the slightest issue, it shows he is truly selfish. Such a person is not worth your time. A truly mature man should be able to protect and support you in difficult times, not just laugh with you in good times.