When a guy really likes you, his first impulse is to spend money on you, to pamper you, to buy you things. It’s not about how much money he has, but a natural instinct to take care of you, to show his affection, and to make you happy.
He feels uneasy when he sees your shortcomings, and he can’t resist buying things for you. Even if he usually lives frugally, he wants to give you the best. Just like a child knows that giving a lollipop to a crush can bring joy, adults think the same way.
On the other hand, if a guy borrows money from you, jokes about you supporting him, expects you to buy gifts for him, or hints for gifts, that’s a different story. A man who truly likes you will maintain his self-respect and not easily let you spend money on him.
Let’s talk about Lily’s story: her ex-boyfriend, she paid for almost everything from head to toe. From underwear, skincare products, beddings, to the shoes under his feet and the fitness equipment in his hands, Lily carefully selected and paid for them.
She even remembers the North Face down jacket he loved was brought back by her overseas friend. Occasionally, she would transfer money directly to him, as an extra “sponsorship.” Just a week after the breakup, Lily recalls all this and finds it somewhat unbelievable.
Lily’s experience sparked a discussion in her circle of friends. Some sympathized with her generosity, while others criticized the selfishness of that guy. In this discussion, Lily realized that giving should come from love, not just one-sided sacrifice.
She told her friends, “Now it seems that someone who truly loves you will naturally want to spend money on you, instead of the other way around. If a guy really likes you, his first reaction is to pamper you, buy you things, not expect you to spend money on him.”
Lily’s best friend also chimed in: “My husband said he would never give me gifts in his life, he doesn’t know how to choose gifts, and he hates the act of giving gifts. But he helped me pay off my parents’ debt of over 200,000, and the medical expenses of over 200,000 when my parents got sick. I think he is super responsible!” Everyone agreed: “This is the kind of person to spend a lifetime with! It’s so rare, more practical than giving bags and lipstick.”
Although this experience made Lily feel painful, it taught her to distinguish a person’s sincerity and understand the importance of maintaining dignity and equality in love. Lily’s story, like a mirror, reflects the confusion and growth of many people in love. Her transformation also enlightened those around her: real love is mutual giving, not one-way taking.
Actually, this principle is simple, even my young nephew understands it. He’s only three years old, once he generously gave all his treasures—his milk bottle, cup, candies, and an orange—to a little girl he met at the supermarket downstairs.
The little girl ignored him, and he was almost in tears, saying, “I gave you everything, why won’t you talk to me?” Adults find him cute and say, “Naturally loving, he must be loved at home too, so cute!”
This incident tells us that whether it’s a young boy or a grown man, they are equally generous towards someone they like, hoping to make the other person happy and get their attention through their own little thoughts.
Even at a young age, he knows how to care for and attract the person he likes in his way. Regardless of age, men are willing to give unconditionally to the girl they love. And this kind of giving, far more than taking, can truly prove his feelings for you.